January will be an interesting month as my school heads into the final weeks of 1st semester. It’s a fun time of the year, but it’s also one full of pitfalls and the one I dread the most is the grading conversation on the horizon.
While helicopter parents can be annoying, they are (for me) less daunting than the parents who simply want to negotiate the final grade a student earns. I have already received fair warning that one student’s parents will be trying to increase her daughter’s grade if it’s not an A.
I simply find these conversations annoying, and a no-win for anyone. I find them tedious. Parents walk away without a change.
I never change a grade that a student earns based on a parent conversation. I tell parents and students that “I record what is earned.” I often repeat that “I don’t give grades. Students earn grades.”
Well, this is put to the test each year, so when a parent asks me to raise a grade I respond with one or more of the following depending on the situation:
- “So, you’re asking me to cheat for your child?”
- “Are you asking me to lie?”
- “Do you often ask people to lie for you?”
- “What would this teach your child?”
- (if speaking to a fellow teacher) “Do you cheat for your students?”
- (if speaking to a fellow teacher) “Do you lie for your students?”
Most of the time, one of these questions ends the discussion. Then I document the incident for future reference.